Claiming Singleness

Okay, so here’s a post going out to all the single ladies.

Have you ever just been fed up with being alone?

Fed up with seeing happy couples, adorable engagement pictures, marriage vows?

I don’t know of one single lady that hasn’t been through the “Fed-up” stage in singleness.

I can say that this stage is one of the worst.

Seeing others who look and seem happy when all you want is just to “be them”.

I’ve been in this stage lately until this evening God spoke loud and clear.

As I was running on the treadmill (this is where I tend to think) I began to ponder on how often I compare my current state to the state of others and their happiness and my lack-there-of. I quickly asked myself the question: “Why do I not view my life as fulfilled?”

The answer shot guilt straight through me, “If I only had…”

Ouch. This answer hurt.

The Bible states loud and clear:

Exodus 20:17

“You shall not covet your neighbor’s house. You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male or female servant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.”

Yes, I don’t necessarily look at a donkey or an ox and wish that I had one as a pet but how many times to I look at others and just wonder what it would be like to have what they have?

In truth, it happens more than I want to think it does. Especially when it comes to being a single Godly woman in search of a man whose heart is wrapped around the will of God.

However, what really is worth coveting over?

Although I see others with what I do not have, does that mean I have any less?

I have the ultimate Lover of my soul, the Creator of the universe, who molded my heart and shaped my very being.

What more could I ask for?

After God gripped my heart and mind through meditating on His scripture, I then heard Him whisper straight to my heart:

“You must claim it.”

Like any other time God speaks I immediately start asking questions…

“Claim it, claim what?”

“How do I claim it?”

“Once I claim it how does that help the situation?”

Then I realized the truth of God’s whisper.

For me to live in God’s will, follow His heart and lead where He follows during this time of waiting for a future spouse, I must CLAIM my singleness.

I must daily surrender my want for a man in my life to God and then allow Him to shape my want into His need for my life.

Realizing the Christ is enough while living the single life is sometimes difficult. However, taking each day as an opportunity to prepare spiritually to be the wife God wants me to be, breathes purpose back into the life that God has given me.

So, what do I do with what God spoke to my heart this evening?

I strive daily to give up my wants for God’s needs in my life, and CLAIM what is not mine to begin with but His.

Surrender my Singleness for His Fullness.

I am claiming my singleness, in Jesus name.


Weakness, A Useful Canvas

Have you ever viewed a canvas before the first stroke of the paintbrush hits the pure white surface?

As the artist views the white, blank slate in front of him, he sees a masterpiece about to be created.

First is the planning process and then comes the actual action of creating.

What if that blank canvas would be compared to your life?

Do you view your life as a white pure canvas awaiting God’s first movement or is your life full of mistakes, regrets, hurts and heartache?

As much as I wish I could say that I view my life as this blank canvas, more times than not I focus on those struggles from my past.

In all reality, forgiveness and submission is like removing the paint from a canvas and creating something brand new.

something good

The things we see as characteristics of weakness, God wants to use to perfect His strength in us.

Too often, we have heard our entire lives that weakness is a bad thing. However, God uses what the world sees as a short-coming and transforms it into a beautiful display of His power.

Our weaknesses are meant to humble us but not defeat us.

1 Corinthians 1:27

“But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong”.

What we see as broken, He sees as useful!

Never underestimate what you can do for God but focus on what God can do in and through you!


“For The Moments I Feel Faint”

By: Relient K

Am I at the point of no improvement? What of the death I still dwell in? I try to excel, but I feel no movement. Can I be free of this unreleasable sin?
Never underestimate my Jesus. You’re telling me that there’s no hope. I’m telling you you’re wrong.
Never underestimate my Jesus When the world around you crumbles He will be strong, He will be strong
I throw up my hands “Oh, the impossibilities” Frustrated and tired Where do I go from here? Now I’m searching for the confidence I’ve lost so willingly Overcoming these obstacles is overcoming my fear
I think I can’t, I think I can’t But I think you can, I think you can I think I can’t, I think I can’t But I think you can, I think you can Gather my insufficiencies and place them in your hands, place them in your hands, place them in your hands.

Flourish in the Desert

Isaiah 55

“Where once there were thorns, cypress trees will grow”

The desert of life. We all get trapped by it.

We come out of a season of life that is joyous, full of life and wonderful and then the desert season blindsides us.

Without warning, it comes and dries up the joy we recently found. Who likes to be in a desert?

Dry, unquenched and lonely, without an end in sight.

Sounds very depressing.

The truth about the desert is that yes, it is a time when hope seems far away. But really, the desert is what we make it.

Often, I’ve learned that the desert is where I find growth. A place of desolate can be a place of flourishment.

Although the season of dryness and loneliness is hard, we have a God who overcame so that we can overcome the deserted places in our lives.

Isaiah 55

It is in the desert that we find God tending to our dry soil and we start to see cypress trees where there were once thorns.

Growth takes place.

God is the life-giver of broken things.

Let Him take your desert and breathe life into its weary land.